*124.6 million American adults are single, meaning there are more single than married people in America. Chances are you have a friend or loved one who
struggles with “Singleness.”
While having conversations with some of our single friends and relatives, we heard over and over how the thoughtless questions and comments of others made them either doubt themselves, or want to scream the following in reply. “Just because I’m single, doesn’t mean I’m not complete. I realize that kidneys, hands, nostrils, eyes, lips, legs, lungs, and ears all come in pairs, but right now I’m a “heart” beating single. There is nothing wrong with me, I am not undesirable, and it does not discount my worth!”
Here are the top 10 things NOT to say to your single friends:
1. “So, why are you still single?”
2. “You must be lonely and feeling less than.”
3. ”How come you don’t put yourself out there more?
4. “Wow, have you really been in 127 weddings? That must be so depressing for you!”
5. “Relax! Your day will come! Enjoy your time alone, travel . . . There are worse things that can happen, Carol was just in a car accident . . . “
6. “Maybe, You are Meant to Be Single. Maybe God does not intend for you to be a wife.”
7. “If you hold out for those standards, you are never going to get a guy.”
8. ”Have you tried some of the online sites? Christian Mingle. OKCupid. eHarmony. Match. Tinder. Big Fish?
9. “Once you reach 30, it’s too late. All the good ones are gone.”
10. “You might want to quit working so hard. Your job won’t keep you warm at night.”
Instead of the stigmas and the statements, what if we encouraged singleness? God knows exactly where you are and what you need. It might not be easy at times, but we were not promised easy; He promised us HIMSELF. “I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” ~ Matthew 28:20
More discussion on this topic with our guest, Anita Higman. Anita is a CBA best-selling and award-winning author with 40 books published. She believes a lot of Christian women who long for marriage will identify with her newest book, Summer’s List, especially given the expectations the church can place on single women. “Sometimes they might feel if they can’t find Mr. Right, they are somehow second-class women.”
Also, on Girlfriendit Radio was author, Jeremy Jernigan, talking about his newest book, Redeeming Pleasure. How does the pursuit of pleasure mirror our hunger for God? Great conversation that will challenge your view of God and inspire you to see Him truly as a God who is good!